When you take control of your feelings, you can alter other’s responses as per your requirements on most of the situations/events/conversations.
You all must have experienced a negative emotional reaction toward someone specific without any reason then the first thing you do is to blame others which are driven by the feelings.
You experience that when your feelings hurt it is always the other person’s fault not yours because they behave differently because of which your anger button pressed. You believe that you need to prevent yourself from this behavior and your focus goes on preventing you from the other person or you try to avoid that person in the future.
From where on earth you experience that particular feeling, the answer is your reaction to that event or person arises from preconditioned sensitivity to certain stimuli. This happens because something triggers you while others present in the same environment are perfectly okay and don’t experience the feelings you experience.
The most important thing you forgot that the law of attraction is always at work and energy flows where your focus is. So when your focus is on avoiding specific situations, deals, or the person you attract them more into your life in different ways.
We all have a limited amount of energy, to spend or invest that energy is totally on the choice of every person.
Energy always goes to the sure focus. Great but how to manage these triggers and reactions to get a favorable response from others. With mindfulness, you can manage the anger buttons.
When you feel triggered by other’s reactions take responsibility for your feeling and emotional response. It is not anybody’s fault that you felt hurt but your mental pattern which got triggered at some stimuli and you experience the feeling of hurt.
Your brain is patterned that way that on certain stimuli you feel negative. You need to replace that old stimulus with new stimuli to control your feelings in any situation and permanently remove the blaming storyline from your system.
Stop blaming anyone for your feeling of victim or helplessness because of other’s behavior. Do your best to delete this blaming story game.
It is not difficult but a skill which can be developed at any time. You always have two paths in front of you one is to continue blaming others for making your stay miserable on this planet and the other is to take control of your feeling and replace it with new stimuli and drive other’s responses through your feelings.
The choice is yours….